DANGER !!!!! WOMEN WHO DON'T GO OUT

When Siblings come on behalf of their Sister, they say "Jerome, I have this Sister who is not married, I believe her problem is that she doesn't go out, so we want you to help us Matchmake her with a Good Guy".


My Reply is ALWAYS "what she needs right now is not Matchmaking, but to HangOut a bit and be in the midst of people in a very Relaxed way, and then when she has gotten used to people, she can then get used to relating freely in a Marital Relationship".

People who don't go out or have friends can get married and a lot of them have, but you find a lot of Abuse in such Marriages, and such Women are taken a lot for granted by their Husbands. Unfortunately we call such women "Wife Materials", because they faithfully stay at HOME, going nowhere, and know NOTHING about their Husbands, but in the actual fact a WIFE MATERIAL is always beside her Husband, supporting him in every step he makes, and knowing ALMOST EVERYTHING about him.


PLEASE REMEMBER:

Don't Marry a Man that has no means of livelihood. A Man who is Lazy will not only ruin your life, he will also make sure you don't fulfil your destiny. You will end up selling Fried Plantain and Yam at the Road side when you were born to OWN chains of Stores.

I Counsel Daily with such Women and I see how their lives have been reduced to NOTHING just because they Married Men who are LAZY, practically don't want to do anything and are comfortable with their wives doing everything.

It is a CURSE when you Marry such Men, because such Men are dealing with Generational Curses in their Lives already, and no amount of DEVELOPMENTAL TRAINING or MOTIVATIONAL TALKS they attend will solve it until the BLOOD OF JESUS Redeems them from the CURSE that has a GENERATIONAL FOUNDATION.

You can't help such Men. Pick them up, Brush them up, take them on Holiday Abroad to step them up, buy new clothes for them, bring them home to live with you, Start up a Business for them, and all your efforts will wither in the PRESENCE of THE CURSE. They have to make a Conscious Decision to STAND BEFORE GOD ALONE. God knows all things, and God alone in His Mercy can REDEEM and RESTORE.

My dear Sister, stop playing God in the lives of these kind of Men. If God is ALWAYS eager to BLESS, then why are we too LAZY to seek Him, when He has PROMISED that if we SEEK HIM with all our hearts", WE WILL FIND HIM!!!

Let ALL MEN who have tried it all, and yet nothing is working, SEEK THE ALMIGHTY GOD, and He will Redeem and Restore! I am a WITNESS that GOD DELIVERS #DontMarryDown


DOES HE DRINK and...

IT IS NOT a great idea to marry a Man who drinks and keeps late nights, there is 95% chance that HE WON'T CHANGE after getting married to you, and that will cause you a lot of PAIN that you can't handle. So MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT, because it is a big deal. Let him know he is Emotionally Unstable, Psychologically Impaired and Mentally Deranged, and ask him to get help not even because of you, but for himself. Let him know if he is lucky enough to get help, and you are still available then, you may consider marrying him. Though if you want to know my candid opinion, I will ask you not to marry him at all #jtalking2u


HE THROWS ME OUT OF HIS HOUSE

O: Thanks Jerome for your wonderful posts. Do you think I should stay with a guy who keeps pushing me out of his house at the slightest misunderstanding we have, then he will go back in and throw my Handbag out as well? Although afterwards he comes back begging me, telling me how sorry he is. I love him so much, do you think he can love me?

A: I believe the question we should be asking here is "DO YOU THINK YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF enough to have your "sense of value" intact?

Its only TRASH that is thrown out of the house, so how did you end up becoming trash that is often thrown not once or twice out of his apartment?
You know if you have to stop loving this guy, or others like him, you will have to CONFRONT the fact that you don't really love yourself, and that may be too painful for you to bear. Let me help you RE-DISCOVER YOURSELF. You may have come from a background of Abuse and Shame, though all covered up with Lipsticks, Mascara, etc, for now, but be assured that your VALUE AT CREATION is still intact, if only you will be BOLD to find it again.